Rebel Truth Blog

Greatest love story never told….




I love Love stories. The ones often not told are the ones we have with ourselves. So many of us do not know where to begin to love ourselves, because the ones in charge of teaching us love from the beginning DID NOT (our parents)!


I’m here to tell you it’s ok to start loving yourself, right from where you are and staring NOW! Let’s break the vicious cycle that parental abuse has caused and start by simply saying I LOVE YOU to yourself daily 💖 You don’t need to wait on the love of others to feel validated. When I started to truly understand what loving myself looked like, I started to feel the shackles of Shame and Low Self Esteem break off in my life.

For me love was absent in my life from the behind of conception. My Rebel Truth begins oh so long ago, from being a little girl unwanted and enduring emotional, physical, and sexualy abuse by my mother. I struggled for a very long time with even believing I was worthy of Love. Also because of the abuse I hated myself and hated everything love supposedly stood for. I didn’t know how to receive or give love or affection. I definitely didn’t know how to love myself, because I was always told I was evil, no good and no one would ever want me. Imagine hearing those words as a child.

Now in my 40’s I am Learning how truly amazing I AM and learning daily to love ALL of me. Even the parts of me I don’t like (my body type… my overthinking…my rough & tough, boldy blunt personality and my super sensitive emotions). I have learned and will continue to learn to be appreciative of what one might consider as flaws. I look at them to be my way to reach so many others who like myself who have gone UNLOVED for way too long.

I do not share my transparency with you for pity of any sort, but for awareness and encouragement. My hope is that others learn the beautiful love song of loving themselves. I am working on developing a program that will help others to heal and “ReLearn Love”. It will be completely free of charge and will be application based. need. If this is an area you struggle in and need help please feel free to reach out to me via email:info@healingisajourney.org and an application link will be provided to you. Please allow 24 hours for a team member to respond.

Blessings on your journey to becoming your own REBEL INSPIRED✝️
Remember to BE BOLD, BE UNASHAMED AND MOST IMPORTANTLY BE HEALED!

REFLECTIONS

As we come to yet another year’s end let’s reflect. I first and foremost want to thank each and every one of you that have read, liked, subscribed, shared, and commented on my blog. I do not take your engagement lightly…YOU ARE SIMPLY THE BEST!!!!!

Next up are the Highs and not so Highs: My highs are that I have learned what it really means to be a child of God, not just saying it because it sounds good, but I actually truly believe it with my entire heart. Once I started to develop my relationship with God as Father and me being his precious daughter the apple of his eye, my life shifted. I began to see the value in myself, my confidence has grown tremendously, and I am truly walking in boldness, fearlessness, and Love. There is something special about knowing that your Daddy is the creator of the entire world and can’t no come close to him or touch him. Baaaaaabbbbbbyyyyyy, that’s a different type of brag right there!

My not-so-high moments were that I fought God every step of the way to get to this point of accepting his love for me and trusting him to lead, guide, and protect me. I had spent so much of my life, being this hard-core, can’t nobody do me wrong ever again, I got this type of girl, that I was afraid to let go of that false identity, that really wasn’t me and accept the one God was showing me. I even tried to shelf dreams I had and settle for what was reachable within my own eye-sight. BUT GOD!!!! You see I said “tried”. God was like nope, not my daughter and swiftly got me right together in my thinking, in my emotions, and in my perception.

I share this with you because, I want you to go into the new year understanding that no matter how this year went for you, God is still in control. Your life CAN CHANGE for the greater if you just trust God and Believe what HE SAYs about you, no what the pain of your past and trauma is trying to speak about you. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE, YOU ARE AN AMAZING CHILD OF GOD!!!! Even when you don’t show up as how he created you to be, God still loves you and is waiting patiently nearby for you to come to him and receive all that he has for you. WILL YOU ANSWER THE CALL, WHEN HE KNOCKS!!!!

LOVE YOU ALL!!!! Let’s GET closer to GOD together in 2023. AND THANKS AGAIN FOR ROCKING WITH YOUR GIRL.

HAPPY NEW YEAR IN ADVANCE!!!!

The Pain Behind The Smile. Depression is REAL!!!

What do you do when someone close to you suffers from depression or if you yourself may be suffering?

  1. Seek professional help
  2. Be a Friend
  3. Never be dismissive of the emotions that are being experienced and PLEASE don’t suggest or think “get over it”!!!!

Depression is a medical diagnosis that is silent but can be deadly for the individual experiencing it. More often than not both males and females of various ages suffer, but go undiagnosed. Some fear being ridiculed, judged and labeled as crazy.

I am here to tell you are none of the above.

How Do I know? I myself had suffered from clinical depression from the age of 7 years old until my mid 30’s.

Below are a few triggers for both women and men, that may cause depression:

  • PMS, pregnancy (during or after birth), *women
  • Toxic Relationships (professional & personal)
  • Finances 
  • Parenting (when you feel inadequate or overwhelmed due to lack of support or financial stressors)
  • Body image distortion
  • Trauma and abuse 
  • Personal Image

Depression can lead to seclusion, severe deep sadness anger, resentment, low self-esteem, binge eating overeating, drugs/ alcohol, sexual promiscuity, and unfortunately suicide….just to name a few.

I can tell you personally I have laid in my room for days at a time crying, wishing I could talk to someone, and even wondering if anyone cared enough to understand what I was going thru. The reality is I could not find the words to explain why or how I had gotten to that point yet again, I told myself. So often times I suffered in silence.

I’m speaking out, being the voice for all those lying in their beds crying, wishing they were dead.


NO……don’t do IT. You have a purpose, but first seek help, you are NOT crazy…YOU ARE AMAZING!!! I am praying for you and you are NOT alone.

For more info on Depression and Mental Health Resources  go to: http://www.nami.org/ (National Alliance on Mental Illness)

I also want to encourage you in the word of God: [Matthew 11:28 NLT] 28 Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.

And remember if no one told you they love you...I LOVE YOU  !!! and most IMPORTANTLY GOD LOVES YOU!

Never Satisfied!!!

Don’t Let That Be You!!! The person that gets what they prayed for yet, finds fault with it or wants more.

“What if what we “Need”, doesn’t look like what we “Want? We miss out on our blessings when wanting more doesn’t align  with God’s will and purpose for our Life!”-ListinerInspires

Like I get it, don’t get me wrong, I too dream of an amazingly wonderful life full of abundance and prosperity (As God has promised Us-If We Believe)  

Deuteronomy 8:18 (NLT)Remember the Lord your God. He is the one who gives you the power to be successful, in order to fulfill the covenant he confirmed to your ancestors with an oath. https://www.biblegateway.com

Jeremiah 29:11 NLT For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.

I have learned rather quickly that what I considered abundance (Lots of Money) and what God considers abundance (Lots of Valuable resources and connections) are two different things. Now, this is not to say he wants us broke, that would be farthest from the truth! What God does want is for us to see the value in everything and everyone he puts in our path. Looking past the physical appearances of things and people and utilizing our spiritual discernment to see the Godly reasons behind every opportunity. Now is that to say that every opportunity is a Godly one, NO! So once again I say use your spiritual discernment by way of the holy spirit to truly know in which direction you should go and what doors of opportunities you should open.

If you have not yet experienced the guidance of the holy spirit, it’s time you do so now. By accepting Christ into your heart and allowing God’s spirit (the Holy Spirit) to live within you, you are given an in-house navigation system to steer you in the right direction. Start today asking God to align your wants with what he NEEDS for you to have and watch how more purposeful and blessed your life becomes.

To those that want to accept Christ into their heart, just pray this simple yet powerful prayer:


“ I believe that Jesus Christ shed His precious blood and died and rose again for me. I confess with my heart and mouth and I now invite Jesus Christ to come into my heart and life as my personal Savior.”

John 1:12 (NLT) “But as many, as received him, to them He gave power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on His name:”
2 Corinthians 5:17 (NLT) “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new” [new life begins]. https://www.biblegateway.com



YOU ARE NOW BORN AGAIN
WASHED IN THE BLOOD OF JESUS.
WELCOME TO THE KINGDOM!!!!

CHECK OUT MY LATEST HEALING SOUL WOUNDS PODCAST. WHERE I TALK MORE IN DEPTH ABOUT HOW TO PRAY THE WILL OF GOD OVER YOUR LIFE SO THAT YOU CAN BE SATISFIED AND FULFILLED. LIVING A LIFE THAT PROSPERS WITH HOPE AND A FUTURE.

Living Beyond Trauma – Take Action and Accountability in your Healing! Healing Soul Wounds

Live Beyond Trauma by taking accountability and the necessary action steps in your Healing! Are you holding someone else accountable for YOUR healing? It is time to be accountable for your own healing! "Act" (accountability and actions steps) is the last part of the 3 Triple A's of Forgiveness. So have your pen & journal/notebook and get ready to catch these knowledge nuggets I'm dropping!!! The Healing Soul Wounds™ podcast is a subsidiary of Teach-Lead-Heal™ providing inspirational content that teaches how to live beyond trauma and holds you accountable on your healing journey by providing actionable steps to take on your healing journey that help you to live in wholeness" Here are other ways that I do just that: Creative Writing: I'm an Award-Winning Author Speaking & Accountability Coaching Teaching: Teach Lead Heal™ Workshops For more information on how to connect and work together: http://www.listinerInspires.com Remember To Be Bold, Be You, and Most Importantly Be Healed-   Love, Listiner Inspires #ListinerInspires #TeachLeadHeal #KnowledgeNuggets #TeachingTuesdays #HealingSoulWounds — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/listiner-inspires/support
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  2. "Living Beyond Trauma"- Accept Your Healing
  3. "Triple A's" of Forgiveness – Acknowledge IT
  4. Let's Begin Again.
  5. Hope, Future, and Prospering Series: God Makes All Things New!

Repair or Replace

The question to consider this month as we prepare to enter a new year is “To Repair or Replace”?
Decisions decisions….

Are there things, people or circumstances in your life that are holding you back?

Are they draining you of energy, time and money?

Well my dear, it’s time for you to decide if it or they are worth the investment to repair or do you need to replace.

As we enter into the last month of the year, it is crucial that you make decisions that will propel you forward on your journey of GREATNESS. And sometimes we have to step our game up and make the hard decisions of letting something or someone go so that God can bring newness into your life.

How do you determine this?
Well, I’m glad you asked!
The answers are with a disciplined spirit of discernment and dedicated prayers.

Ultimately the decision is ours to choose, but if we align our decisiveness with the will of God we ca not go wrong. Even if at first the decision is painful, it will ALL make sense when you see where God is taking you. So decide today…REPAIR OR REPLACE…

Here are a few questions to consider when deciding if something or someone is repairable or replaceable:
What are your reasons for holding on? (Remember a length of time is never enough justification for toxicity, because the longer you hold onto toxicity the more toxic it becomes)
If you go with “replace” are you concerned with the quantity of what’s left? (Remember quality is always better than quantity)

Sometimes being exposed to something different will help you realize that some things gotta go!

Like for instance shopping in a different neighborhood, listening to different music and attending an event with multi millionaires.

All those things will will expose you to new experiences and people, that can oftentimes take your perspective, mindset and even life to a new level.

Happy Decision-making and remember to Trust God!

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Faith Check

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Sometimes it can be so hard to stay encouraged and trust God’s will for your life. When our backs are against the wall, we start allowing doubt and fear to creep in. Then we begin to settle because what we really desire and are striving towards seems so far in the distance. But I’m here to tell you …HANG ON…STAY STRONG and NEVER NEVER GIVE UP. 

Yes, it can be challenging to let go of what we’ve always believed (Fiction) to be true and grasp the new reality of what really is the truth (Faith Facts). Especially if our current surroundings say otherwise, but YOU HAVE TO LET GO AND LET GOD! Once you trust GOD with ALL your hopes, dreams, and desires he will provide assurance through your increased faith walk. 



GOD’S CONFIRMATION BUILDS CONFIDENCE

Below  I have listed God’s truths about us that will break the chains of the self-sabotaging “untruths” we often tell ourselves. We must believe and hold these truths from God as evidence of his undeniable love for us. And as any parent that loves their children, God only wants the best for us and has created ALL of us to prosper and never fail.

(Every Fact listed has been pulled from the bible..the GREATEST BOOK ever written and the manuscript of our lives.) 

Fiction: “My Life is so stressful”

Fact: Colossians 3:15

Let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace.

 

Fiction: “I can’t do this..it’s too hard”

Fact: Philippians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

 

Fiction: “I’m not good enough”

Fact: 2 Timothy 3:17

…the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.

I Pray that you find hope, peace, and joy in the Lord today and that you never ever give up on your DREAMS.       -ListinerInspires

 

My latest podcast episode of  Healing Soul Wounds is available on Amazon Music, Spotify, and Google Podcast. I discussed trusting God and not letting worry come and steal your peace and joy.

Healing Soul Wounds is a deeper look at how your unhealed trauma can prevent you from living the life of Wholeness that God wants for you!

The Freedom of Being of You

The Freedom of Being of You…….Ohhhhhhh…What a beautiful thing it is to be able to live your life as the carefree child of greatness you are. You know what that entitles…..not caring about what others think of you and living your life how God intended you to live: Healed, Whole, and Happy. 

GUESS WHAT….you were put on this earth to be the best and the greatest version of YOU! 

You have a mind of your own with working brain cells that should lead to making healthy decisions on your own that will elevate your life on some substantial level. You stunt your growth by waiting on the approval of others or trying to mimic those around you.

“Live and Let Live….” is a statement used frequently, but I feel is not completely understood. I honestly believe that in order to truly live, we must first learn to love ourselves, then others.  Learning to love ourselves also comes by way of loving God. [[1 John 4:19 KJV] 19 We love him because he first loved us.], but then how can some of us love ourselves or God when we don’t understand truly who God is? {That’s something to think about} You come to know God by reading & studying his word, also by spending time with him in daily communication:l prayers, praise & worship. We often know God by way of what others have shown or told us and quite often that second-hand knowledge is wrong! Get to know God for yourself!!! 

Here is another food for thought, we must stop looking to fix, change, judge, or control others and start working on our own inner healing. First of all, we should not be changing something we did not create, God created us so he has the authority to change us according to “His Perfect Will”. What we can focus on is our mindset and shifting the thoughts that go against what God has said about us. [Romans 12:2 KJV] 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

We do ourselves and our creator a grave injustice attempting to be someone we are not and doing things that do not make us happy or whole just to fit in or be liked. The most important thing you should understand and accept is that if anyone can not like you as you are, then they should not be allowed into your personal space. The energy that you want around you should be conducive to who you are through and through. 

Here are some “Knowledge Nuggets” to think about:

  • Before we fix up our outer selves, we must love inward first. Yet, how can we love inward, if we don’t even like what we see?
  • The clouded viewpoint of yourself is because you are looking through the lenses of unhealed hurt.

Moment of Transparency: When I stopped searching for better outside of myself,  God started to show me how great I really am.  And I operate in that greatness every day.

What do I mean by “searching for better outside of myself”- My relationships (or lack there), My drinking, My activities, and Even the clothes I wore were a reflection of a “girl with a lost identity”

  1. I slept with individuals that I didn’t love or even like for that matter to take back what was taken from me as a child (my virtue and innocents)
  2. I consumed large amounts of alcohol whenever I was in social settings to seemingly have the courage to be bolder because I had social anxiety
  3. I wore baggy clothes to cover my body, which I didn’t like at ALL because I was sexually abused and assaulted during my childhood

So, let me remind you again that the Freedom of Being of You is a beautiful experience!

When was the last time you felt Happy, Healed, and Whole?

IT’S TIME TO “FREE YOURSELF”

It is time to take that step into your Healing Journey.

Don’t Delay, Start Your Healing Today!!! 
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Regroup and Shift Focus

It’s okay to REGROUP and Shift your Focus!
Especially if you are being obedient to God. 💯💯💯

I know that in order to see a plan through, you must get it out of your head and onto paper. You must write out a plan and execute action steps. I also understand that even if I “think” I have it all figured it God can decide that he wants me to go left when I planned on going right. That’s a pivotal moment in anyone’s life. You can decide to keep moving forward with what you have planned or you can do a drastic shift into the unknown and see what God has in store for you.

“Jeremiah 29:11 (NLT) “For, I know plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “ They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”

God not only shifted my schedule allowing for more time to rest and create., but he also shifted my business focus. Now, I’m sure you might be saying, that’s not necessarily a bad thing, and it’s not. But the shift has most definitely taken me out of my comfort zone. My focus is now  was in ministry, somewhere I did NOT see myself fitting in, because I did not feel I was equipped for it.             

BUT    GOD    – Well God had the final say so and he will always know what’s best.  

So I have surrendered to God fully and I am at peace and content. I realized that in order to truly walk in favor I must Obey God and go where he’s called me to, even if I don’t understand or don’t feel prepared. 

I’m also being a better at listening AND obeying God when he says  “you need to rest”!

[Psalms 46:10 NLT] 10 “Be still, and know that I am God! I will be honored by every nation. I will be honored throughout the world.”

So now, I not only have a revised  GOD plan, my calendar set per God’s instructions that to includes “REST” as a priority-  I also have the confidence in Christ, that though I may not understand God’s plans, I TRUST HIS WAYS.

Check Your Heart: Restful, Refreshing, and Reflective

As I am packing my suitcase in preparation to return home from the best vacation I have taken so far, my niece tells me; “Wow, you have a lot of clothes and you didn’t even wear all your swimsuits!”. I have to take a pause and had to Reflect on what she just said.  You see just weeks ago I was talking to God about not having enough clothes and feeling a sense of lack and even insecurity due to my once overflowing closet having drastically decreased.   I had to repent to God for having been an ungrateful brat before. You see last year, I believed God instructed me to give away the majority of my wardrobe, which included clothing items, accessories, and shoes. I happily obeyed thinking, “Oh wee, God’s about to increase my closet with even better items.” How foolish of me to think with a carnal mind. You see as a believer we are supposed to seek the kingdom of God first [Matthew 6:33 NLT Seek the Kingdom of God above all else and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need].and so, therefore, my obedience should be done to please my father, not my flesh. 

I realized that I had been seeking God for what he could do for me, and not just as his beloved daughter who loves her Father. I wept in repentance and sorrow when I realized that I was no better than the Pharisees in the bible who only did things to be seen as righteous, but their hearts were not pure. [Luke 11:39 NLT. Then the Lord said to him, “You Pharisees are so careful to clean the outside of the cup and the dish, but inside you are filthy–full of greed and wickedness!]

The greatest thing about my Heavenly Father is that nothing can remove me from his love and so I have been forgiven and redeemed. [Romans 8:38 NLT. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow–not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.]

On my flight home, I look out the window and I see a rainbow in the clouds. It was a beautiful and Refreshing sight to see, especially from the viewpoint of 10,000 feet in the air. For me, the rainbow was a reminder to me that God has not forgotten about his promises to me. Everything that God has promised me will come to pass if I faint not and trust in the Lord.

Galatians 6:9 KJV And let us not be weary in well doing: for in the due season we shall reap, if we faint not. – Galatians 6:9 NKJV And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.

Some versions of this scripture say …” we shall reap.. don’t give up”. I found it interesting that the New King James Version says “…do not lose heart”. Then holy spirit gave me a revelation that it is in the heart that we make decisions,  our heart is an indicator of our movies and intentions. If we have a tender softened heart our intentions will be pure and good.

[Matthew 15:19 KJV] 19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:[Mark 7:21 KJV] 21 For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders,

So for me, the deeper revelation was that I had allowed my heart to become bitter towards God, believing he had forfeited his promises. I allowed the lies of the enemy that “It was all for nothing”, and my giving up everything to follow Christ had not been rewarded! LIES LIES LIES. My vacation in itself was an indicator of the goodness of God’s promises, being able to travel, do ministry, and spend time with family all things that I love and it was entirely paid for by the ministry. I am at peace with God again and can continue to Rest in him knowing that GOD HAS NOT FORGOTTEN!!!

REMEMBER: GOD WILL MAKE GOOD ON HIS PROMISES TO YOU!

QUESTION: What are you believing God for in your life? 

Who are you holding accountable?

All too often I hear people say …” I’m just doing Me”, but what does that mean?

When I hear people say that it makes me wonder. Who hurt you? Who betrayed your confidence, trust, and value??? Yes, being able to stand alone and withstand life’s difficulties may be a sign of resilience, but it also is a sign of unaddressed hurt, unhealed wounds, and unforgiveness. Especially when you don’t want help, won’t accept help, and deny you need help.

How can you grow anything productive out of damaged soil! The soil is your heart & mind.

Luke 6:45  A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart. 

You probably wondering what your heart has to do with being held accountable.  Well, when comes to your heart, your emotions, and your inner man/woman (your spirit) you must know that YOU and YOU alone play a major part in the healing and restoration of it all.  Though you may have good intentions of protecting your heart at all close by” DOING YOU” and not letting anyone get too close. Good intentions have never built or produced intended results without actions. Good intentions also have never solved a problem or brought about resolve without an action step backing it up. Therefore you need to be actively involved in the healing of your heart and mind. 

Here is where accountability comes into play. You are held accountable for what you allow to affect you emotionally and mentally (not the people and events that hurt you). Though they may deserve to pay…you can not spend your time and life making others pay you for what has already transpired. God is waiting on you to trust him at his word and hold him accountable to right your wrongs.

(Romans 12:19 Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord.).

You gotta trust God completely.  Focus on the GREAT life you have currently and the Future awaiting you that YOU ARE ACCOUNTABLE FOR FORGIVENESS on your HEALING JOURNEY!

Watch the replay of the teaching I did about taking actions and accountability for your healing.

My name is Listiner Inspires and I am a Healing and Accountability Expert specializing in helping those who have experienced childhood trauma and abuse start learning how to heal and live a great life beyond the trauma.

Peace

Peace is a beautiful thing, like truly amazing.

Peace will have you skipping outside even when there is complete chaos happening in your world. Peace is not a fairytale feeling that you wish for and it magically appears. – “NO SIREE BOB”!!! (Lol)  It comes and stays when you put your complete trust in the Almighty Father God. It’s about having that childlike faith.  Now if you have ever experienced childhood trauma and abuse then trusting anyone and especially God will not come easy. Yet. I am here to tell you, that it can be done. Start by getting to know God as Father first, and spend time developing your own personal relationship with him.  Also if you have not done this already, accept Christ as your Lord and Savior to begin a new way of life- rooted in Love, Freedom, and Healing.

[(2 Corinthians 5:17) KJV”Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new” (new life begins).]

Next up is changing/shifting your focus. When you set your attention on being positive even when things don’t go as planned, you are setting yourself up to receive peace. You see, peace and trusting God means you don’t have to have it all figured it because you know God has it figured out for you.  As a matter of fact, he’s already factored in every mishap, misunderstanding, and misdirection that could possibly happen. Do you think you lo0sing your job took him by surprise? Nope! Do you think,  he was taken by surprise when your significant other walked out on you? Again, NOPE! Now granted you may feel like if God already knew these things were going to happen then why didn’t he prevent them or warn you so you could forego the pain and heartbreak? Well, in some cases he may have told you it was time for a change, that person wasn’t the one, or it’s time to move on. Even if you didn’t get a “Gut feeling”, God still will make a way for it ALL to work out for good according to his will and purpose for your life.

[Romans 8:28 NLT] 28 And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.] 

Just remember a  lot of times when things don’t work out or people are removed it is indeed for our good, even if we refuse or can not see it that way because we are too hurt. So, moving forward when you find yourself in a space where your peace is compromised, ask yourself this: Do I trust God?

I specialize in teaching individuals/families/organizations that are impacted by trauma and abuse, how to move beyond the trauma and into healing.. -Listiner Inspires

Beauty In Your Pain

Make no mistake about it, there is beauty in your pain.………

The pain of being broken, the pain of being repeatedly abused, the pain of being deceived, the pain of being an outcast, tossed aside like trash…And even quite possibly the worse pain of them all; being abandoned, rejected, and/or abused by your father and/or mother which can sting you to your core. Knowing that two individuals came together to make you and neither felt the need nor had the capacity to stick around either physically or mentally to provide for can cause you to be bitter, broken, and angry.

But I’m here to tell you that despite all those things that seem unbearable that may have caused you to be whomever you are at this moment. It’s not ALL bad and there is beauty that will arise from that pain. How do I know you ask? Well hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, let’s see you are reading this blog aren’t you?????  That in itself says you are willing and able to seek knowledge and wisdom in order to elevate yourself on some level. That takes something I like to call HOPE!

[Isaiah 61:3 NKJV] 3 To console those who mourn in Zion, To give them beauty for ashes, The oil of joy for mourning, The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; That they may be called trees of righteousness, The planting of the LORD, that He may be glorified.”

I also know firsthand what it’s like to have a very traumatic past and look at me now I’m just as beautiful inside as I am outward. LOL. But for real though, a lot of us spend so much time on our outer appearance that we fail to see we are slowly dying inside. When I made a decision to start the healing process to rid myself of those toxic feelings that trauma can leave, my smile became brighter and more genuine. I laughed more because I had a reason to enjoy living. 

Here are a few processes that helped me get through certain levels of trauma and start seeing the beauty in it all through the lens of healing:

  1. First of all acknowledge whatever may have happened as not being your fault, forgive and let live.
  1. STOP reminiscing or reliving the past- move forward in the present moment and start living and going after what you desire and deserve (and trust me YOU DESERVE the BEST).
  1. Though some of your pain may not have been physical (if that’s the case), you still need to heal properly and seek professional help when necessary (NO SHAME in Allowing someone to assist you when needed)
  1. Pause when you need to …enjoy quiet moments alone with yourself, with endless amounts of laughter, love, and crying to cleanse your soul.

And last but not least…………. LOVE YOURSELF and Remember there IS beauty in your pain and that BEAUTY IS YOU!!!!!!

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Releasing – Forgiving – Letting Go

Come here, a little closer, I need to tell you something… closer….okay, now listen…LET IT GO!!!!!!

It’s time to release what was, what could have been, and everything else that is keeping you from entering into a season of overflow and abundance.

You can’t truly be free if you are still caught up in the past. Whether it be a past relationship, past situation, or past hurt.

I was in my devotional time with God, writing in my journal, and felt led by the holy spirit to Forgive, release and let go of all the people that have disappointed me, hurt me, and/or betrayed me. Sometimes when we hold on to these feelings not even realizing it is holding us back. The majority of the time a person may have hurt you, moved on, and maybe not even realize the impact of what they have done or said has on you. Trust me I know, been there done that. 

Now, is the time to release them from your heart and mind… Forgive them! It may be a close relative, a best friend, a business partner, a spouse, or a lover. Whoever it is, should not be able to hold so much power over you, your emotions, your thoughts, or your actions.

Don’t you want to make room for what God has in store for you?

Remember: Your life can’t be filled with love, joy peace, and abundance if you are holding on to hurt, unforgivingness and pain.

Here are 3 tips on how to FORGIVE, RELEASE AND LET IT GO. (because it’s Time)

  1. Write out the names of the person and the action
  2. Ask God to help you to forgive them and what’s been done
  3. Wish them well, by speaking the best over their life

Bonus: Make a decision to no longer relive the past, by not bringing it up in conversations, and don’t allow yourself to go back there in your mind 😉

Make sure to join me live @ 12:30pm CST this Tuesday (April 19th) on my YouTube Channel or FB Page, I will be teaching about Forgiveness: Learning how to acknowledge what happened.

My name is Listiner Simpson also known as Listiner Inspires.

I am changing the narrative of those who have experienced abuse and trauma, from one of Shame, Stigma & Silence to Support and Solutions, from hopelessness and rejection to HEALING and RECOVERY. I create inspirational content that is designed to be used as accountability tools, resources, and solutions in the healing process. moving beyond trauma into a great life. -Listiner Inspires

YOUR YES, HOLDS WEIGHT

How many of us are ready to lose everything to gain so much more????

Let’s not all answer at once.

I will start first, NOT ME!!!

Now, as a believer-a-Christ follower, that is literally what Jesus calls me to do.”[Luke 9:23-24 NLT] 23 Then he said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross daily, and follow me. 24 If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it.”

When I first gave my life to Christ, it was because I was tired of the mental and emotional torment I experienced on a daily basis. Night and Day Terrors, suicidal thoughts, depression, anxiety, anger, restlessness and so much more. As I continue to journey with Christ, I wanted to experience a deeper spiritual relationship encounter because, to be honest, I was bored of just going to church and sitting in the pews and still leaving the same.  [I didn’t know it then, but my spirit desired and needed to be closer to Father God]

I must admit at first I sought after the encounters in my own ways: through the eyes of others, believing in the universe, listening to many false teachings, etc.  Then I thought, if I got busy doing good and fixing myself, I would feel that closeness in the spirit. So, I tried to stop cursing, drinking, having sex, and showing myself worthy of this great God.  Yeah, that lasted only so long, before the tormentors of my soul (my demons, came back in full force) driving me literally to try and commit suicide. 

 I remember it so clearly: It was my birthday weekend several years ago, I had promised myself I wouldn’t get drunk again. Yet, failed on that promise and woke up the next morning, not remembering how I got home or if I had sex with anyone. I felt horrible, I started to cry uncontrollably because once again I failed! It was about 6 in the morning and my boys were still sleeping. So I go in my truck and planned to drive it into Lake Michigan because I just knew I failed God and I couldn’t keep living like this. I was driving, laser-focused on getting to the lakefront, I didn’t leave a note because I could not explain what I had been feeling. 

Then God intervened, literally, I looked up and found myself at my sister’s house, ringing the doorbell. (To this day, I can not explain how I got there, because I all remember is pulling up to her house) Her husband opened the door and let me in because I am still crying uncontrollably, I couldn’t tell him what was wrong, because I had no words. He immediately woke my sister up and she took me into the living and just held me as I cried, She began to pray for me and then I begin to tell her what I had intended to do and how I was tired of trying so hard and failing.

That day marked the turning point in my life, where the spirit of suicide and death was broken off of me.  I began the process of giving up the shame and guilt of my hurt and brokenness for God to start the restoration process-making all things new. “[Isaiah 43:19 NLT] 19 For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.”

The following year I rededicated my life to Christ. I gave God my Yes and allowed him to remove everything and everyone that did belong in my life, that was blocking me from being who God originally created me to be. I dealt with my past and myself by acknowledging that I played a major part in my brokenness. I began my own Journey of Healing, Deliverance, and Wholeness, which has not always been easy, and to be honest some days I be ready to throw in the towel.  Yet, every day I wake up glad that God did not give up on me, even when I had given up on myself. 

So I want to encourage you to try JESUS for yourself. You do not have to be perfect or have it all figured out. God loves you and there is so much waiting for you if you just believe.

[Romans 10:9-10 NLT] 9 If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by confessing with your mouth that you are saved.

“I create content that empowers individuals who have gone through trauma & abuse to move beyond the trauma and into their HEALING, for a chance to live an abundant life!” -Healing Is A Journey™

Fear Is An Enemy of Mines!!!

So this week I discussed and taught online how fear cripples you.  As God would have it, the very thing I taught about I had to learn my own powerful lesson. I didn’t realize that anxiety was still an issue for me, but God is all-knowing and his infinite wisdom, knew I still had some things that needed to come up and out.  Let me tell you from the beginning: About 16 years ago  I got into a really bad car accident where my car was hit by another vehicle and knocked across 3 lanes of traffic on the expressway.  By the grace, protection, and mercy of God I walked away from that accident with not a scratch on me, and neither did my 2 oldest children who were 10yrs old and 7yrs old at the time.  Although I did sustain any physical injuries, I succumbed to a much greater enemy; the spirit of fear, which came with his brother named anxiety into my life, like a raging storm. I had my first panic attack that same year when I tried to get back in that same vehicle in which I had the accident (once it was repaired) and completely freaked out. I couldn’t breathe, I began crying uncontrollably and hyperventilating. I ended up giving that vehicle away to another family member. A year later I purchased another vehicle and found that I was still anxious when driving on the expressway. The fear of getting into another car accident and dying was so real to me, that most of the time, I opted to take the streets instead of the expressway, no matter how far I had to go. I started making it a habit of calling people on my long rides home, as a way to keep me from going into panic mode by myself. I even began to not travel many places that were too far, if it was raining or even a slight chance of rain. I also started taking shots of “my idea of liquor courage” tequila or vodka before driving to feel less anxious (Thank God I didn’t get into an accident from being intoxicated). I did everything but address the issue, by seeking help and getting therapy to face this fear/anxiety head-on.  

Years went by and then it was time to trade my vehicle in for a new one, my family had grown and with 3 boys all in sports, I needed a bigger vehicle to transport them and all their sports equipment. So a truck is what I purchased and ended up only using it for work and the kid’s local activities, making excuses for why I couldn’t take road trips to their games in nearby states. Yes, my fear & anxiety trickled down to my children, to the point that I did not teach any of my boys how to drive, because I was afraid they would die.

 Now here I am 44 years old, proclaiming and walking in victory and healing from many traumatic events in my life. I have started a few businesses and I am going around the world coaching, speaking, and writing books, but my old enemy anxiety and fear have reared its ugly head again. What kicked it off is that I got notified of a winter storm warning for the area I live in, which wouldn’t normally bother me, because I  work from home. But this time I will be affected because I needed to pick my sister up from the airport and take her to work during the hours of the storm. Well, that sent me into an anxiousness, that caused me to stay in bed the entire day [I was literally crippled by the fear]. I thought about every possible scenario to get out of picking her up, from getting someone else to pick her up or getting her an Uber. I even became angry at her for deciding to go on vacation in the middle of winter (she doesn’t know I felt that way, she will Now though, when she reads this blog). I know everything I’ve done, said and thought were all  VERY IRRATIONAL!!!! But fear will have you acting, being, and saying irrational things.

 I finally had to confront this spirit of fear head-on and let it know it had no place in my life. [[2Timothy1:7 NLT] 7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.]  I am at a point in my life where I don’t want NOTHING getting in the way of my complete Healing and Wholeness, I have come too far and have too much to lose to allow the enemy of my soul to take me into a living death by fear. So I did something I never did before I enlisted the help of complete strangers on our morning prayer call  (well they were strangers until God put us together – NOW they are my Freedom Community) to pray for me and this anxiety. I told the honest truth and I no longer care how silly or crazy I may look being a 44-year-old woman, dealing with driving anxiety. MY FREEDOM is more important than mine or anyone else’s feeling for that matter!!!

 I decided to share this experience on this blog to help anyone else who may be experiencing any form of anxiety or fear that you too can become FREE!! I feel like I need to talk to you and tell you the raw truth because the name of my blog is called Rebel truth for a reason.  And so that is my truth but baaaaaabbbbbby let me tell y’all moving forward I’m going to be driving and doing things with NO LIMITATIONS, NO RESTRICTIONS, and NO FEAR. Be on the lookout for pictures from ALL the places I will go and see while I am driving. 

Remember Fear and Anxiety are the enemies of living a great life that God has for you and any enemy of God is an enemy of yours! PERIOD AND AMEN!!!

My name is Listiner Simpson also known as Listiner Inspires.

I am changing the narrative of those who have experienced abuse and trauma, from one of Shame, Stigma & Silence to Support and Solutions, from hopelessness and rejection to HEALING and RECOVERY. I create inspirational content that is designed to be used as accountability tools, resources, and solutions in the healing process. moving beyond trauma into a great life. -Listiner Inspires

Remember To Be Bold, Be You and Most Importantly Be Healed- Love, Listiner Inspires www.listinerinspires.com

The Season of Blossoming is Not ALL Bad!!!

Hey There Awesomeness,
I woke up with my heart full of Joy. The seasons are changing and I love this fall crisp air. I am sitting in my favorite spot in the house, by the living room window, with my journal and my coffee. God has been blessing me and answering prayers. I am in a new season of my life and I must admit I was a little scared at first, but then I started to think about when the leaves change on the trees. Dead leaves fall away then making room for new leaves to blossom in a new season. They are usually vibrant, bold and stay around for a minute. What I really noticed was how the process for the leaves to change color is beautiful at first then they dry up and become eyesores, this process seems to take place quicker than the blossoming.

So, my inspiring brain started to think, what if we prolong our season of change by paying more attention to the ugly parts of the process? I must admit I did, when God started to shift things, removing people, things, and memories I was dependent on I was angry. (Let’s keep it real) I pouted, fussed, and resisted the change. I was tired of being single for so long, while God healed my soul wounds. I wasn’t ready to be a grandma yet, because I had ideas of being “the rich Auntie” that traveled the world. I even told my sons when they were younger, I wasn’t babysitting, yeah NOW I can’t wait to spend time with my grandson and I can still travel the world and be the wealthy grandma. (LOL) I even told myself it didn’t matter where I came from, who my father was or where my extended family lived.

BUT GOD……. Now, I am so excited about the new addition to our family. I am blessed to have a flexible schedule to help the new parents out whenever possible and to spend time with my growing family. I discovered I have an auntie that is still alive at the tender young age of 88. I reconnected with an older cousin this week and plan to meet other cousins. Earlier this year I did a DNA test and learned that I am 50% West African (exciting). I am glad that leaned into God instead of trying to keep my stubborn ways because my season of blossoming is so beautiful!
I want to encourage you to embrace your season of change, IT’S NOT ALL BAD!!!

Remember To Be Bold, Be You and Most Importantly Be Healed- Love, Listiner Inspires

I am changing the narrative of those who have experienced abuse and trauma, from one of Shame, Stigma & Silence to Support and Solutions, from hopelessness and rejection to HEALING and RECOVERY. I create inspirational content that is designed to be used as accountability tools, resources, and solutions in the healing process. moving beyond trauma into a great life. –www.listinerinspires.com

I Am Living A Refreshing Life

“Isn’t it enough that I have cancer, Now I must talk anxiety out of my head too!!!!!” That is what I yelled aloud, last year when not only did I get diagnosed with Stage 2 Breast Cancer during the height of the pandemic, but I also had to go through my treatments alone at the hospital wearing a mask. My anxiety then was at an all-time high, so much so that I ended up going to the ER for a panic attack.

Matthew 6:34 (NLT)

So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring it’s own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.

Matthew 6:34 (New Living Translation)

Anxiety has always tried to make a permanent home in my life. For as long as I can remember, I always seemed to live with a sense of being overwhelmed and some type of fear. On the outside, I often appeared extremely shy or withdrawn as a child, but that was really depression and anxiety telling me to keep my mouth shut about my awful life of abuse. (LIES LIES LIES)

You see my anxiety entered into my life from the first moment my mother abused me. I started living in fear of doing something wrong that would cause a physical, emotional, or sexual attack. My mother, unfortunately, had an undiagnosed mental illness. She most definitely lived a double life, everyone else around her thought she was the nicest lady, yet I was scared shitless on most days and twice at night. Going to sleep became of twisted game, waiting to see when she would fall asleep so that I could close my eyes drift off, but not before covering up and putting the covers over my head as a way to protect myself. I HATED THE DARK!!!

I have gone through years of therapy, hospitalizations, medications, and now with living a Faith-Based Life in Christ Jesus, I can say finally say I am fully HEALED from Anxiety and I am HAPPY and WHOLE!

Oftentimes new traumatic experiences can remind you of past memories you have chosen to bury. For me, I realized I didn’t always allow people to get “too close” for fear of being hurt again. So, when cancer came knocking at my door and I needed to enlist the help of close family and friends to help me, it became a challenge to really let people in. So this made me realize that I needed to dig deeper into myself and my relationship with Christ to start truly doing the heart work of healing. From the deeper work, I created a daily routine that keeps me focused on Healing and helps me to let go of Anxiety, Fears, and Worries. Now this daily routine does not take the place of therapy (which I went to weekly), but it helps me to REFRESH my mindset and emotions, which in turn kept anxiety from making matters worse!

Psalm 19:7

The instructions of the Lord are perfect, reviving the soul. The decrees of the Lord are trustworthy making wise the simple

New Living Translation

These are the 4 things I do every day that keep me feeling refreshed daily, find what works for you and BE REFRESHED DAILY:

  • Spending time with God refreshes your Spiritual Being (Prayer, Journaling, Quiet Reflection, Reading the Bible)
  • Reading refreshes you Mental State of Being (Ebook, Physical Book, Article or Audio Book)
  • Physical Activity refreshes you Body (Taking a Walk, Stretching, Dancing, Bicycling, Working or Playing with the Children or your Significant Other *wink wink*)
  • Quality Time with Loved Ones refreshes your Heart (Laughter, hugs and conversations)

“I create inspirational content that are designed to be used as tools, resources, solutions, and accountability to help those who have gone through trauma and abuse start living their Best-Healed Life” – http://www.listinerinspires.com

Remember To Be Bold, Be You and Most Importantly Be Healed

Love, Listiner Inspires

Toxic Independence: The Strong Person Syndrome

Hey Y’all Hey

It’s been a minute since I shared my “Rebel Truths” with you. I have been working on a few things in my businesses and ministry that I can not wait to share when finalized. If I am to be completely honest, this has been a long time coming, but I had been getting in my own way by not asking or seeking help to build out my visions greater. I don’t know how many of you can relate, but I had a really bad habit of not asking for help even when I really needed it. I had a warped sense of needing to appear strong, even at the cost of losing it! I found myself trying to take on too many projects and “chasing the bag” without getting any of the results I had hoped for. I finally sat myself down and had a genuine come to Jesus moment and yelled…”I NEED HELP”! Let me tell you, God has helped me to restructure my businesses and hire the help I need to build out every entity, so that not only will it be successful but will thrive effortlessly. GLORY TO GOD!!!

Let’s get back to the teaching moment that I want to break down and share with you. Here is what I learned and I want to share it with you, so that you don’t have to learn the hard way as I did.

If you have been following me on any of my social media platforms, you may notice a pattern: I love to break down word definitions to get a better understanding. So let’s go a little deeper to understand what exactly is: “Toxic Independence: The Strong Person Syndrome”. (Disclaimer: This is not an official syndrome, it is more of my Rebel Truth perspective). MAKE SURE TO READ ALL THE WAY TO THE END!

  • Strong (definition) 1.) having the power to move heavy weights or perform other physically demanding tasks        2.) able to perform a specified action well and powerfully.

Similar Words:  forceful, severe, strict, drastic, extreme

  • Independence (definition) the fact or state of being independent
  • Independent (definition) 1.) free from outside control; not depending on another’s authority  2.)not depending on another for livelihood 

Similar Words: self-sufficient, self-supporting, self-sustaining, self-reliant, self-standing, self-contained, self-made (Sidebar: NO ONE is self-made, everyone has had some type of help along the way)

  • Toxic (definition) poisonous, very harmful 

When does being strong and independent become toxic?  

When the focus becomes ALL about self!!!!

*Don’t be so independent that you lose sight of the need for God’s guidance and the amazing people in your life

*Signs of The Strong Person Syndrome:

  1. Prideful: Not wanting or asking for help when needed
  2. The “I can do it myself” mindset
  3. Thinking & Saying: “I don’t need anyone”
  4. Resentment: “No one has ever been there for me*

Where there is Pride there is usually the spirit of Rejection and Shame.

Shame usually lies deep within, placed there by a traumatic experience that you have not addressed and started healing from.

  • Ex. Maybe you were  abused/bullied/neglected as a child that left you feeling unprotected and scarred
  • Ex. Perhaps your experiences were with hurtful words (verbal abuse is just as traumatic) hearing things like: You will never make it, Why are you so weird, You are too big/skinny, SHUT-UP, 
  • Ex. Even broken promises by a loved one can leave a lasting negative effect: If you grow in a single-family home, divorce, cheating spouse

ALL of these things leave us feeling rejected, hurt, angry, and sometimes alone.

Then the need to control situations and outcomes kicks into overdrive, which can lead to Anxiety, OCD, Extremely Social, or Super Isolated.

See it’s one thing to be strong and able to endure during tough times, it becomes toxic when you need help and refuse to seek it due to pride, shame, and the need to control everything.

There are times that we ask God to help us, to bless us, send a miracle and/or sign and we miss it, because it may very well come in the form of people! 

Don’t miss out on what God is doing in your life because it’s not packaged the way you would like.

REMEMBER

  • God can and will use the very thing that hurt us in the past to help us to heal in our NOW
  • God will use unlikely people and unusual circumstances to render us dependent on him
  • You can’t measure everyone’s intentions with that person or people who hurt you before

[Proverb 16:18 CSB] 18 Pride goes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall.

STOP BEING PRIDEFUL,  ASK-ACCEPT-RECEIVE the help you need!!!

Love You, Listiner

Listiner Inspires, LLC is a lifestyle company that specializes in teaching individuals/families/organizations/ministries that are impacted by trauma and abuse, how to move beyond the trauma and into healing. I am also an Award-Winning Author, Mental Health Advocate,  International  Speaker, and Healing & Recovery Accountability Expert & Coach and Creative Consultant.