REBEL… TRUTHS…

CREATE YOUR OWN

HIAJ LIVE

The holiday seasons are upon us and there is a hustle and bustle in the atmosphere. Whether you enjoy this time of year for the sense of family or the abundance of festivities happening, make sure you are doing these things because you want to, NOT because you feel obligated to. As someone that grew up in a dysfunctional family setting and also being in a group home, I have never been too fond of the holidays. For me, it was a reminder of what I didn’t have as a child and that’s family, love, and traditions. It wasn’t until I actually got divorced that I started doing things MY WAY.

A lot of times people find themselves feeling the loneliest and the most unhappiest during the holiday moments, from either memories of a deceased loved one, being single, or just having a financial restraint not allowing them to buy the gifts they want.  

I suggest create memories and happy moments in real-time on a daily consistent basis leading up to the holidays. If you are still in mourning for a lost loved one, think of some things they enjoyed doing and do those things in memory of them. If you are single surround yourself with positive and productive individuals and activities. If you have children or loved ones you want to buy gifts for but are financially unable to do so….be honest and have a heart-to-heart with them and create fun times together, that are cost-effective and meaningful.

Because at the end of the day sharing love and affection should not be seasonal, it should be daily, Please don’t allow society, social media, or traditions to make you feel inadequate, unworthy, or miserable, every day should be celebrated….because guess what…YOU ARE ALIVE and that’s a blessing in itself.

Check out my story in the Chicago Tribune, that also provides a source of support for you this holiday season. https://www.chicagotribune.com/coronavirus/ct-mental-health-black-communities-coronavirus-tt-20201118-20201118-itfcf6n3lzfqlnjovukgk6y42i-story.html

“I create content that empowers individuals who have gone through trauma & abuse to move beyond the trauma and into their HEALING, for a chance to live an abundant life!”- Listiner Inspires.
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Living Beyond Trauma & Abuse

When I am asked how I overcome the childhood trauma and abuse, being raped and domestic violence to living a life where I now help others to overcome too.  It really all starts with healing.  Even though it sounds simple enough, most still are trapped by their past and what happened to them.

There is a difference between surviving what’s been done to you and thriving after you have survived. Many stop at surviving and remain in survival mode. 

Let me explain the difference:

  • Survival mode: 
  1. You live with the constant fear of what’s going to happen next
  2. You expect the worst from people
  3. You don’t plan for a future, because you are worried about the outcome
  4. You are still angry and bitter about what’s been done to you
  • Thriving & Living
  1. You have hope for great things in store
  2. You give people the benefit of doubt
  3. You plan for the future and set goals
  4. You have forgiven those that have hurt you in the past

Now, isnt it time to start thriving and living ?!?!

Now one might ask, what are the first steps to starting your healing?

Here are the Triple A’s :

  1. Acknowledge that you need healing
  2. Seek and Accept the help to start the healing process
  3. Take the action steps that will be required on your healing journey

For more resources and tools to help you start your healing, visit: www.hiajlive.com 

Remember: “You live your best life from a place of being healed. It’s time to moved beyond the Trauma and into your Healing!.”

Love, 

Listiner Inspires

Provision For The Vision

Provision For The Vision

I have always lived my life through the lenses of the bigger picture vision. As a born visionary; someone who is always thinking about or planning the future with imagination or wisdom: it’s embedded in my DNA to think bigger, go harder and break boundaries.  What happens though, when the vision scares you and doubt starts to set in, and you are questioning if YOU have what it takes to make it happen? 

You seek a more knowledgeable and powerful source to be your resource! For me, that source has been Christ.  Let me take you back to my childhood days, where my visionary mindset envisioned traveling and writing books all while going through abuse and trauma. You see, I grew up to a mentally ill mother who was abusive in every way possible, and in order to be able to live through that trauma, I chose to dream about getting out and being “someone” other than that abused little girl. 

Well, GUESS WHAT that someone is ME. I have grown up to be the greatest version of myself, even better than I imagined. My dreams of traveling have come true and my passion for inspiring people has turned into a business and ministry that is making a global impact (speaking that into existence)!

Let’s talk about how I made it all come true: by starting my healing. The healing process allowed me to face my past and it’s demons, deal with the trauma and its residual side-effects and ultimately let go of the hurt, shame, and rejection I felt on a continuous basis. Once I started healing and allowing God to order my steps, I took an even bigger step and started following my dreams, taking a chance on me and doors began to open, opportunities began to present themselves and my resources have been overflowing. 

I encourage you to tap into the ultimate source: God

Start your healing journey: TODAY

And believe in your DREAMS AGAIN…….

If you are in need of assistance, support or resources feel free to connect with me email: info@listinerinspires.com

Also you can plan to attend the upcoming Healing Is A Journey™ Conference on Sept 19th, it will be a virtual experience

My name is Listiner Martinez also known as Listiner Inspires. My purpose and passion are to change the narrative of those who have suffered from abuse and trauma, from one of Shame, Stigma & Silence to Support and Solutions, from hopelessness and rejection to HEALING and RECOVERY.

I create inspirational content that is designed to be used as tools, resources, solutions, and accountability to help those who have gone through trauma and abuse start living their Best-Healed Life” www.listinerinspires.com

Preserving Black Excellence by Understanding Trauma Based Responses and Learning how to Effectively Heal and Recover

When I think of Black Excellence, I think of our strength and resilience, but those same characteristics can be viewed as defiant and aggressive by those who do not understand our internal and external struggles.  For centuries African Americans have been treated as less than equal, whether it is due to slavery, systematic oppression, or social injustice. The by-product of that can cause generations of “Trauma-Based Responses” (mentioned as TBR’s going forward). 

TBR’s are initial reactions to trauma such as tiredness, confusion, sadness, anxiety, agitation, hopelessness, dissociation, and anger just to name a few. Imagine these feelings being passed down from one generation to the next without anyone ever getting the proper help they needed.

Interestingly enough most people don’t even realize they are responding from a place of hurt, because everyone around them may respond that way too and rightfully so. We tend to emulate what we are exposed to. What exactly does Trauma have to do with Black Excellence? Despite black people having to experience racism, police brutality, and social injustice we are still able to bounce back with resilience and strength, and band together to speak up for our fallen brothers and sisters.

Black Excellence is happening throughout the world, even in the midst of TBR’s. The media is showing the looting and violence happening, but there is always more than meets the public eye.  There are peaceful protests happening, black communities gathering together to clean and help rebuild businesses, and black-owned businesses being patronized to keep the black dollar circulating.

We still have a long way to go to begin to heal from all that has and continues to happen to us as a race of beautiful black people. One of the most important things we can do to preserve our Black Excellence is not just acknowledging we are hurting, but to actively and effectively start the healing process. We must first take care of our Mental Health by seeking professional help (Make the Therapist Bae..LOL). Then start implementing daily self-care routines, journaling, prayer/meditation, unplugging from social media, resting, eating well, exercising, and spending quality time with loved ones, just to name a few.

Once we start our healing journey, unpack all the layered on trauma, then we can start to be more proactive than reactive.

Signing off, Listiner Inspires

I create inspirational content that is designed to be used as tools, resources, solutions, and accountability to help those who have gone through trauma and abuse start living their Best-Healed Life”

Here is one way that I do just that:

My Healing Is A Journey™ Conference Series

For more information on how to connect and/or collaborate, go to www.listinerinspires.com or send an email to info@listinerinspires.com

I Almost Gave Up

Faith Over Adversity

To be honest lately, I have been feeling like giving up, BUT GOD!

Yesterday I was reminded that I am loved and not alone. You see I have Stage 2 Breast Cancer and Chemotherapy is “trying” to kick my butt!

As I cried out to God to have mercy on me and give me relief from this pain, I thought he had forsaken me because I couldn’t hear or feel him like I normally would. You see I couldn’t feel God the normal way I have experienced him before because this is not “my” normal experience.

So God had to show up in news ways to let me know how he can use anyone or anything to encourage me, and that I am indeed loved and most definitely not alone.

I have been receiving encouraging phone calls, text messages and social media posts from people who in that moment didn’t know I was having a really bad couple of days. They were either telling me how much I encouraged them and inspired them. Some told me that I was on their mind and wanted to know what I needed. Others prayed with me and for me. It was in that moment that I truly realized the power of witnessing God moving mountains, Heaven and Earth on my behalf.

You see I learned a long time ago that a mustard seed of Faith could indeed move mountains, but to see it manifest in such a great way, was such a blessing.

“Matthew 17:20 NLT — “You don’t have enough faith,” Jesus told them. “I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.”

(New Living Translation)

God reminded me of my past experiences where I wanted to give up and he wouldn’t let me. SO CANCER doesn’t have anything on my God or my faith. Yes, my Faith will be tested and each time Faith will win! Because my GOD is GREATER THAN ANY BATTLE I FACE!!! With every moment of this experience I am reminded that my life has been called to be a living testimony. And everything that I go through is not for me alone, but to help others on whatever their healing journey looks like.

I want to encourage you to not give up! You may be facing one the hardest battles of your Life, but trust and believe you will get through to the other side and you will be stronger and GREATER for it.

Here are 3 things I learned that may help you to keep the Faith when Faced with Adversities:

  • 1.) Allow others to help you
  • 2.) Don’t feel embarrassed or weak for needing help
  • 3.) This test will be a testimony that you can use to encourage others

“I create inspirational content that are designed to be used as tools, resources, solutions and accountability to help those who have gone through trauma and abuse start living their Best-Healed Life” – http://www.listinerinspires.com

The New “Normal”

Adjusting to my new normal seems to be the “thing” that I’m doing a lot of lately. My days consist of appointments, evaluating my emotions, taking medication, being in pain, waking up often in the middle of the night  and being tired doing the day. It’s all been a bit much and today I felt like giving up for just a brief moment! Feelings of being overwhelmed have consumed me and I started to feel like I was a burden to myself and others. I don’t like how I feel and YES, I trust God but I still have very real “human” emotions.  Yes, I’m strong but right now I’m feeling weak. These are my true feelings and often vary from Day to Day. Some days I start off and I wake up full of positivity, happiness, energy and ready to take on the day. Then my new unwanted companion pain interjects itself into my agenda, a reminder of the fragile state of my new body! It does not feel good, it does not make me feel strong and sometimes it causes me to lose hope in better days to come post-cancer.

But through it all, I continue to remain in Faith, because if I don’t know anything else I know God has not forsaken me nor has he left me. God is here with me and I rejoice in the moments when I’m able to sleep a full night’s rest. I revel in the moments when I have a day where there’s no pain and I’m able to do yoga poses, dance and sing without being tired and out of breath.  I feel rejuvenated when I’m not emotional and crying but feel full of encouraging thoughts! Yet still, I MUST continue to adjust to my new normal. 

“When life throws you a curveball, catch it, look at it, evaluate how to best utilize it and throw the s*** back if it doesn’t serve a purpose.”

In the midst of what may be going through, you should take some time to sit down and really think about how to feel by addressing the situation and the emotions that come with it. Please do not suppress them.  Putting on a happy face when you’re not feeling your best really does you a disservice. It prevents others from really helping you in your moments that you are the most vulnerable and could truly use the help.

I am personally learning to be okay with saying I am not okay more often than I would like to. I am learning that when my body feels tired do not push myself to meet some self-appointed deadline. I am learning to cry when I feel the need to do so without having to monitor and suppress my feelings. I’m learning to ask for help,  accept help and embrace help even when it feels uncomfortable. I’m learning that there is beauty and inspiration in the imperfection and impromptu moments of my creativity whether it comes in the form of writing, cooking or creating videos.

“I am learning to readjust… I’m learning to accept and I’m learning to embrace my new normal in my own way.”

So if you are experiencing a new normal whether it is due to new health challenges,  family dynamics, change in financial status or just dealing with a new way of life overall, do not be discouraged. Be empowered to know that you are not alone and that you can learn to readjust and to embrace your new normal in the way that best suits you.

Here are few tips to help you through the process of your NEW NORMAL 

  • Pay Attention & Acknowledge how you feel,(angry, sad, disappointed, frustrated, concerned, fearful)
  • Get a support system (Family, Friends, Therapist)
  • Find a creative way that works for you to express yourself (singing, dancing, cooking, arts & crafts, journal writing, etc)
  • Overall learn to adjust and be flexible

My name is Listiner Martinez also known as Listiner Inspires.

My purpose and passion are to change the narrative of those who have suffered from abuse and trauma, from one of Shame, Stigma & Silence to Support and Solutions, from hopelessness and rejection to HEALING and RECOVERY.

Here are a few ways that I do just that:

✅I’m an Award Winning Author
🔗amazon.com/author/listinerinspires-rebel

✅ I’m a Healing & Accountability Expert, Speaker and Coach
Book your session today: https://calendly.com/healingisajourney

✅ I’m an international Speaker, check out my YouTube channel
🔗http://bit.ly/ListinerInspires-Youtube

✅ I’m the founder and creator of Healing Is A Journey ™ a quarterly Conference Series
🔗bit.ly/HIAJEventbrite

I create inspirational content that are designed to be used as tools, resources, solutions and accountability to help those who have gone through trauma and abuse start living their Best-Healed Life” – Listiner Martinez

Breaking Barriers

Get Comfortable with being uncomfortable and Facing Your Fears

  • One outcome of breaking barriers is entering in the unknown
  • The unknown can be uncomfortable if you feel you’re not equipped

But did you know that God doesn’t call the equipped he
equips who he called


1 Corinthians 1:26-29 New Living Translation (NLT)
26 Remember, dear brothers and sisters, that few of you were wise in the world’s eyes or powerful or wealthy[a] when God called you. 27 Instead, God chose things the world considers foolish in order to shame those who think they are wise. And he chose things that are powerless to shame those who are powerful. 28 God chose things despised by the world,[b] things counted as nothing at all, and used them to bring to nothing what the world considers important. 29 As a result, no one can ever boast in the presence of God. –www.biblegateway.com

So  most of time when we enter into the unknown we become uncomfortable, because we believe that we don’t have what it takes,

When in actuality God uses “the uncomfortable”and the unknown  to draw out of you what may have not known was within you all alone. Such as a business idea, a book to be published, the platform to help millions and resources/connections to make ALL your Dreams come true

God can break the barriers of your wrong thinking, but you gotta be willing to give them up.

2 Timothy 1:7 NLT — For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.- www.biblegateway.com


I absolutely love this scripture!

Whenever I’m faced with a situation that has me fearful and doubting myself I say this scripture aloud as an encouragement to ME.

And to put FEAR on Notice..THAT IT HAS NO PLACE IN MY LIFE. Because I was never designed to be fearful

Step out of the shadow of your Fears.

Step into the light of God’s truths

See yourself as valuable and start making the right investment into yourself and with your time

Let me tell you a little story about a little girl that no one really took the time to  love, that was abused and mistreated by the very person that birthed her.

This little girl was labeled as crazy, medicated from the age of seven, hospitalized multiple times for mental illness before the age of 13 . And yet still survived and thrived in environments that was designed to kill her spirit and her will to live.


She graduated high school and tried to go onto college but was too overwhelmed with social anxiety and racing thoughts to stay focused long enough to complete college.

So  after many attempts, she finally decided college wasn’t for her and stepped off of that oath.

But still feeling defeated , discouraged and unworthy without that piece of paper that said she was important, she started asking God to help find her purpose.

So God did, but first she had to face her past and all the fears  and lies it held. Then she started her journey of Healing which uncovered a lot of pain and suffering that she wasn’t ready to face, but did so reluctantly.

Soon she discovered her pain has purpose and by telling her story she could help others start to heal to, AND SO SHE DID.

She broke the barriers of not having a college degree, coming from an abusive childhood, suffering from a mental illness and feeling unworthy.

To BECOMING AN AWARD WINNING AUTHOR , SPEAKER and ACCOUNTABILITY EXPERT.

THAT LITTLE GIRL WAS ME!

So I am here as a living witness that:

Here are the some of the steps to Breaking the Barriers off your life:

God can break the barriers of your wrong thinking, but you gotta be willing to give them up

  • Step out of the shadow of your Fears.
  • Step into the light of God’s truths
  • See yourself as valuable and start making the right investment into yourself and with your time

Make sure to check out my YouTube Channels:

Listiner Inspires and The Rebel Channel

ALSO PLAN TO ATTEND MY FIRST EVER HEALING CONFERENCE !!!

For more information or to register click the link:
Healing is a Journey -Part 1

I create innovative content that inspires revolutionary  individuals to elevate an expand their mindset by holding them 
accountable for taking the necessary action steps in their Healing & Recovery journey! -ListinerInspires™

Complain or Cooperate

Complain or Cooperate

We can not eliminate the challenges and the hard parts from this life’s journey, because those very things is what builds our character and resilience.

I am personally facing a very real challenge head on: Social anxiety!

I finally had to come to terms with the “Faith Facts”  that in order to be all that God has called me to be, I had to face my fears head on.

This was necessary in order to truly let my light shine as God intended so that others may know whose I am and who I AM… A CHILD OF GOD.

I am generally a behind the scenes type of gal. I love creating the content that inspires and motivates.


Daniel 12:3 NLT — Those who are wise will shine as bright as the sky, and those who lead many to righteousness will shine like the stars forever.

http://www.biblegateway.com

I am great at what I’m GREAT at which is writing, hence publishing an Award Winning Book :

amazon.com/author/listinerinspires-rebel (YES SHAMELESS PLUG)

Now comes the real challenge: Coming from behind the scenes and being seen.  

Which has mean taking center stage, travelling and speaking about my  testimony of “Healing & Recovery and the story behind my book.

The  point of view of the author is told by the author

What good is a story that no one can relate to?

Yet I had become okay with having being brave enough to publish my story for the world to read. And so I thought I was done, until God said now go and share your testimony will the world so that others may be Free too!


Mark 4:21 NLT — Then Jesus asked them, “Would anyone light a lamp and then put it under a basket or under a bed? Of course not! A lamp is placed on a stand, where its light will shine.

http://www.biblegateway.com

Now as I plan the most biggest event of my life to current:

“The HEALING Conference” (Details coming soon).

I am faced with acknowledging and overcoming social anxiety.


What is social anxiety:

A chronic mental health condition in which social interactions cause irrational anxiety
Signs & Symptoms:
Symptoms may include excess fear of situations in which one may be judged, worry about embarrassment or humiliation, or concern about offending someone.

People may experience:
Depression or fear
Also common: anxiety, palpitations, social isolation, or sweating


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A chronic mental health condition in which social interactions cause irrational anxiety

Now if you have been following my blogs, read my book or follow me on social media, you know I talked about suffering from clinical depression for most of my life

Well I don’t really talk about the social anxiety part because it can be embarrassing. Here I am a Published Author,  Speaker and Accountability Expert that get nervous at the idea of networking, being seen in public and speaking in large crowds.

But GOD –

So take this  journey with me as I face my fears head on and become comfortable with being uncomfortable

Because “Bosses” don’t Complain they get shit done !!!


I create innovative content that inspires revolutionary  individuals to elevate an expand their mindset by holding them accountability for taking the necessary action steps in their Healing & Recovery journey! -ListinerInspires™

The Pour in – Who’s inspiring you.

Who’s pouring into you?

How do you stay motivated?

Who’s hold you accountable?

Who’s uplifting you when get overwhelmed ?


Romans 14: 7 For we don’t live for ourselves or die for ourselves.


Romans 14: 19 So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up.

www.biblegateway.com

(The Church being God’s people)

So many of us are claiming “independence”, “don’t need nobody” and “I made it on my own” type testimonies.

Well no shade, but I don’t want that as my testimony on my journey of GREATNESS!

Let me explain:

I did not get here alone, God held my hand and my head above water, many a times when I thought I would drown in my own mess.

And along the way he sent people to pour into me what I needed the most in those moments.

When I needed encouragement, when I needed a shoulder to cry on, when I needed an extra push, when I needed prayer, when I needed an inspiring word or two, a place to stay, a meal and just ears to hear my pain.

So I did not get to where I am NOW alone. And though I may have felt alone many a nights and on the verge of giving up, God wouldn’t let me.

I have even been inspired by a song that has brought me to tears and given me hope.

See I wasn’t always a faithful Christian that loved the Lord. To be honest I was angry, aggressive, bitter, hurt, broken and  an emotionally unstable individual, that just wanted to not be seen, heard, touched or live any more.

I want to be left alone, yet my heart was crying out for help

So God touched my heart and loved me anyways.

He found ways to get to me even in my stubbornness :

  • A song
  • A stranger with the kind words
  • A YouTube program, that I just “happened” to see
  • Connecting me people along the way that saw something in me I hadn’t yet seen in myself
  • An employee that talked to me about the goodness and mercy of God, even when I didn’t want to hear it

So I personally would never say I made it to this point alone, because without God I would not be here. Without him persistently

and creatively pouring into me I wouldn’t be an award winning Author that create content to inspires others.  I also wouldn’t be an introverted inspirational speaker that helps others to heal and recover.

And though I have a long way to go on my journey of GREATNESS, I have learned to value God’s loving grace and mercy that kept me when I couldn’t keep up with myself.

So remember that you are not ALONE, and though this journey never seems to get any easier , God will always send you what you need.

Look around you right now, you may already have a team of people in your corner. That coworker that encourages you with positive “you got this text”.  Or how about the friend who pushes you to be greater by inviting you to events you may think are out your league.

And don’t forget that  person who keeps you grounded by having your back when the shit hits the fan.

And after taking some time to reflect and you still truly feel as though you don’t have anybody, then go to God and ask him to send you who and what you need. And watch he shed light on some people that have been there all along 😉

I create innovative content that inspires revolutionary  visionaries to elevate an expand their mindset by holding them accountability for taking the necessary action steps to be GREAT! -ListinerInspires™

Connect with me to get ALL things INSPIRING: Listiner Inspires

What happens when our Dreams come true ?

1 Corinthians 1: 26-29 (NLT)

26 Remember, dear brothers and sisters, that few of you were wise in the world’s eyes or powerful or wealthy when God called you. 27 Instead, God chose things the world considers foolish in order to shame those who think they are wise. And he chose things that are powerless to shame those who are powerful. 28 God chose things despised by the world, things counted as nothing at all, and used them to bring to nothing what the world considers important. 29 As a result, no one can ever boast in the presence of God.

What happens when our Dreams come true, but it is more work than we planned?

What happens when our dreams, takes us totally out of our comfort zone?

What happens when we starting losing ourselves in our dreams?

Well first we must ask ourselves, is this what God wants for us?

If the answer is Yes- then get use to being uncomfortable!

If the answer is No- then

(Read my last blog “ Regroup and Shift Focus” and watch my YouTube video (https://youtu.be/iJMSAniNXvc ) for more insight)

And if we lose ourselves while focusing in on our DREAMS than I say that’s a great thing. Why, because we lose ourselves to God and God is the one who planted those very dreams inside of us from before we were born. So when we emerge out from the hard work and labor pains of investing in ourselves and our dreams, we are becoming our truest selves. The person who God really intended for us to be, not what our circumstances, upbringing, our past, our family, our hurt, pain & abuse tried to tell us what to be!

Then let’s say “ BRING ON THE NEW ME”

The new me rooted in Christ


Romans 5:11 So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God because our Lord Jesus Christ has made us friends of God.

And as a friend of God he will not leave you hanging.

So if he’s given you the vision he will give you the provision!

I create innovative content that inspires revolutionary  visionaries to elevate an expand their mindset by holding them accountability for taking the necessary action steps to be GREAT! -ListinerInspires™

Connect with me to get ALL things INSPIRING: Listiner Inspires